You're right... you are. I asked Scott himself what you needed besides love, and of course, you need to put effort into it, have patience, communication skills... all of these things I thought were innate, sort of like being human. They come along with the package. Why would someone get into a relationship with another person if that S.O. didn't have patience, determination, etc.? It's like, "What's the point?"
So according to Scott (and am I prone to always being a yes-girl and believing whatever the guy says?) I need to start hauling back and looking at the Big Picture, and face reality and facts-- thinking with my head and not always my heart. That means that as swell as we've been at times, there are times when we will disagree or be apart or whatever. He's going to start spending nights in the photo lab, and I'll be alone doing whatever at home. It sucks, but it's life. I have to accept it and move on. Of course, easier said than done.
The moving situation sounded so freakishly good when we first contemplated it, and I never expected the g'rents to agree. But it's been nearly a month now and things have been "eh" at best, I'd say. It's nice that he's right next door, and that I have a backup person to give me a ride. It's nice to know with 80% certainty where he is all the time, but on the flipside, I don't get the same privacy, or the giggles from his TMs and IMs.
So maybe you're right and this "moved in" thing should just be temporary. Right now, we don't have much of a choice. We have to work through this and then consider him in an apartment and me elsewhere. Or work through this and consider us together, package, and not letting anything else get in the way.
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No, you're right
Date: 2005-02-16 08:01 pm (UTC)So according to Scott (and am I prone to always being a yes-girl and believing whatever the guy says?) I need to start hauling back and looking at the Big Picture, and face reality and facts-- thinking with my head and not always my heart. That means that as swell as we've been at times, there are times when we will disagree or be apart or whatever. He's going to start spending nights in the photo lab, and I'll be alone doing whatever at home. It sucks, but it's life. I have to accept it and move on. Of course, easier said than done.
The moving situation sounded so freakishly good when we first contemplated it, and I never expected the g'rents to agree. But it's been nearly a month now and things have been "eh" at best, I'd say. It's nice that he's right next door, and that I have a backup person to give me a ride. It's nice to know with 80% certainty where he is all the time, but on the flipside, I don't get the same privacy, or the giggles from his TMs and IMs.
So maybe you're right and this "moved in" thing should just be temporary. Right now, we don't have much of a choice. We have to work through this and then consider him in an apartment and me elsewhere. Or work through this and consider us together, package, and not letting anything else get in the way.
I hope.