It's certainly not that I want to stop being nice, but it's that if I keep up my attitude of wanting to help out people that I feel, for whatever reason, don't meet MY standards, they'll lash out and against me and make me feel like helping others is useless. One of those incidences can be enough to negate hundreds of people who have been enthusiastic and honestly grateful for when I've helped them with things that I take for granted, like my computer knowledge.
For example, I always try to leave concrit on fics, but sometimes the way I phrase things either isn't helpful or just came across differently from me to the author. I try and explain things so that my reviews aren't the sort one rants about on fanficrants, but I've had at least one time when an author was like "Uh, I KNOW all that stuff you told me; the mistakes I made in this fic were just a one-time thing, and you really shouldn't talk to people like they don't know anything." Or something to that effect, but basically there was a miscommunication, because I certainly didn't intend to come off as a condescending know-it-all who is the Queen of Fic. Otherwise, I wouldn't need a beta myself, would I!?
But to be honest, that author that claimed their one fic was riddled with a basic mistake was just a "one time thing?" I found it in a lot of their subsequent fics. I wanted to comment, because I liked the stories as a whole, but I felt mentioning the same thing again would just be beating a dead horse or whatnot. As a result, I've stopped reading her fics. Maybe that's no skin off her nose, but part of me feels like I'm missing out on good storylines because I'm too exacting-- I want my fics to have proper grammar and punctuation! Maybe my idea of "proper" is too hardcore for other people, who, even if they're writing for adult fandoms or write adult plotlines, just do it "for fun" and thus don't care to the level that I do.
My problem is (with most everything), I put in 110%, and if I feel like I'm not getting a return on my investment, I get disappointed. I want others to be as passionate as the things I care about as I am, but one can't force that sort of thing on others.
*sigh* Sorry for babbling there. Anyway, I do want to finish the harbor scene, and I'm sorry for not being online often. A lot's been happening the past few days and I'm just playing catch-up at the moment. Hopefully I won't be too bogged down with homework so that I can find a free moment to get online (and I won't get distracted by the myriad other things I have to do or other Bright Shiny Objects).
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For example, I always try to leave concrit on fics, but sometimes the way I phrase things either isn't helpful or just came across differently from me to the author. I try and explain things so that my reviews aren't the sort one rants about on
But to be honest, that author that claimed their one fic was riddled with a basic mistake was just a "one time thing?" I found it in a lot of their subsequent fics. I wanted to comment, because I liked the stories as a whole, but I felt mentioning the same thing again would just be beating a dead horse or whatnot. As a result, I've stopped reading her fics. Maybe that's no skin off her nose, but part of me feels like I'm missing out on good storylines because I'm too exacting-- I want my fics to have proper grammar and punctuation! Maybe my idea of "proper" is too hardcore for other people, who, even if they're writing for adult fandoms or write adult plotlines, just do it "for fun" and thus don't care to the level that I do.
My problem is (with most everything), I put in 110%, and if I feel like I'm not getting a return on my investment, I get disappointed. I want others to be as passionate as the things I care about as I am, but one can't force that sort of thing on others.
*sigh* Sorry for babbling there. Anyway, I do want to finish the harbor scene, and I'm sorry for not being online often. A lot's been happening the past few days and I'm just playing catch-up at the moment. Hopefully I won't be too bogged down with homework so that I can find a free moment to get online (and I won't get distracted by the myriad other things I have to do or other Bright Shiny Objects).