Ignore their perception of what the real world is. I remember a person who always complained because she said I took things too seriously while all my other friends only saw it as dry humor and sarcasm- that's just how I am. That's my type of humor and it almost got me Class Personality. They know I don't mean anything by my comments.
Now she dropped out of college and works full-time at Taco Bell.
Oh hell yes- she definitely has made it into the world. ;)
But as someone who respects the elder generation, I think your grandpa is just telling you in his little way to lighten up a bit and maybe because of the large generation gap, your jokes and his jokes mix like water and oil. Take all their advice with a grain of salt- they don't mean to say it condescendingly; I always just credit it to their own little way of showing how much they care.
As for the Scott thing...here's a situation: I have a friend who just broke up with her ex because of a few issues they had. The gist of thier courtship was that they got together after three days, made love, she moved in even before they got together, and it would have been the courtship (since they'd known each other from their own town)...
Had they not lived together so fast. You may think you need Scott but there are times when being around him way too much will make you frustrated easier and the smallest things about him will tick you off; vice versa with him. That probably will then make you compare to the 'old times' where they were so 'great' but really, you guys just hadn't had time to find out about each others quirks. The best part is that you guys are open with each other and not adverse to playing roles. It sounds like you and Scott want to make this work and the only thing standing in the way is just having your own space.
Remember, they are guys. They tend to feel crowded even if they're the ones doing the crowding- those idiots. *vein bulge* To me though, it doesn't excuse the way he's been treating a paramount as yourself in such a way that you've described to us. Don't make decisions based on whether or not you think he will approve of it (whether it's a pair of socks to moving wherever he goes).
(Note: But as a third-person, I can only offer my views from your perspective since I've only heard your perspective and therefore, can not offer an objective view.)
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Now she dropped out of college and works full-time at Taco Bell.
Oh hell yes- she definitely has made it into the world. ;)
But as someone who respects the elder generation, I think your grandpa is just telling you in his little way to lighten up a bit and maybe because of the large generation gap, your jokes and his jokes mix like water and oil. Take all their advice with a grain of salt- they don't mean to say it condescendingly; I always just credit it to their own little way of showing how much they care.
As for the Scott thing...here's a situation: I have a friend who just broke up with her ex because of a few issues they had. The gist of thier courtship was that they got together after three days, made love, she moved in even before they got together, and it would have been the courtship (since they'd known each other from their own town)...
Had they not lived together so fast. You may think you need Scott but there are times when being around him way too much will make you frustrated easier and the smallest things about him will tick you off; vice versa with him. That probably will then make you compare to the 'old times' where they were so 'great' but really, you guys just hadn't had time to find out about each others quirks. The best part is that you guys are open with each other and not adverse to playing roles. It sounds like you and Scott want to make this work and the only thing standing in the way is just having your own space.
Remember, they are guys. They tend to feel crowded even if they're the ones doing the crowding- those idiots. *vein bulge* To me though, it doesn't excuse the way he's been treating a paramount as yourself in such a way that you've described to us. Don't make decisions based on whether or not you think he will approve of it (whether it's a pair of socks to moving wherever he goes).
(Note: But as a third-person, I can only offer my views from your perspective since I've only heard your perspective and therefore, can not offer an objective view.)
Best wishes with your paramour. ^_^